Crushing on the Wine Delivery Guy
I’m in my 30s and crushing on a younger guy who delivers wine to my workplace four times a week. We would chat and flirt during his deliveries but only […]
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My Boyfriend is Suicidal
Dear Joey, I fell in love with the foreign exchange student my family hosted last year. He’s back home, and I miss him so much. We SKYPE, but it’s not the
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Life Gets Easier: Here’s How
When frustrations and losses threaten to overwhelm, it may seem counterintuitive to count your blessings. But a gratitude makeover will restore a feeling of freedom, creativity, and personal power. It\’s also a good time to question the beliefs that make you feel like you\’re sinking. Let go of expectations that are holding you back. Grab the brass ring and hold on until you turn your wishes turn to reality. Perseverance, flexibility, and an open mind are key. Here\’s what I told one man who was struggling with his expectations…
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Hey Parents: Stop Projecting Anxiety on Your Teen
Adults learn how to be parents by engaging in the experience of parenting, but they aren’t experts going in. Parents might try to mimic or avoid attitudes and behaviors that their own parents engaged in, but ultimately, it’s a hands-on job. Mistakes, and ill-informed arguments, are common. Reading books on parenting helps to build knowledge, but knowledge informs the intellect, it doesn’t necessarily inspire wise parenting. The key is for parents to be self-aware regarding their own emotional triggers, and to have the self-discipline to respond, instead of overreacting. That’s incredibly challenging, of course, and that’s why good parenting is a truly a spiritual practice. But teens can help their parents learn how to parent wisely. Here\’s how…
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For my Birthday, the Gift of Reality
Ever argue with reality? As in: “This shouldn’t be happening!” or “You can’t do this to me!”
I have—too often. Life has handed me experiences—each one a valuable lesson, an education in learning to embrace what is. Sometimes, I resist. Resistance often prolongs my own suffering and stress. But I\’m learning another way to live, and it\’s powerful secret I want to share with you.
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Loving the World When News is Tragic
If you’re feeling hopeless, angry, or stressed, please don’t withdraw from intimacy with the planet. Yes, the most common prescription is to fast from the media and the Internet. Popular sayings like: “You can’t give what you don’t have” justify pulling away. But a habit of withdrawing from reality can mean the loss of an opportunity to evolve. Here\’s how to care for yourself while also staying conscious and available to heal the planet.
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When Things Fall Apart
\”Hope is the bird who sings in the dark, knowing the light will come, \” wrote the poet Tagore. When things fall apart, we must grieve and then, choose wisely. The most important question: Who do you want to be, or become? We can balance our loneliness with joy in spending time with ourselves. We can heal our frustration with work by opting to see our employment as a job, not a career. The real career is to evolve into the best person we are capable of becoming. Here\’s how I helped one woman do it…
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Don’t Make the First Date an Interview
We all love conversations in which we feel heard and understood. But what happens when we force that kind of emotional intimacy on a first date? If you don\’t want a potential bae to feel like a bug under a microscope, read these tips for convos to bring you closer.
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How to Love a Bully
It\’s easy to shame a bully but I\’ve learned how to use love and logic to tame them instead. So when I overhear two boys, about nine or ten years old, arguing. I cross the street and intervene.
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Dad says his GF is my new Mom :(
Your instant relationship may feel good to you, but your children are suffering. A teen writes to Joey: \”My parents are divorced and my father moved in with his girlfriend of six months and her kids…\”
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